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What Do “Independence” & “Interdependence” Look Like in a Coupleship Where My Partner Continues to Scan and Lust?
This article (created from episode 246 of the PBSE podcast) explores the complex dynamics of independence and interdependence in...
mbkastleman
Sep 16, 202410 min read
With His History of Dishonesty, Should I Just Trust that my Partner’s Relationship with an Attractive Coworker is “All Business”?
This article (which is taken from episode number 245 of the PBSE podcast) explores the complexities of rebuilding trust in relationships...
mbkastleman
Sep 9, 20249 min read
Is it My Responsibility to Make My Porn Addicted Partner Feel Comfortable so He Will Consistently Tell Me the Truth?
This episode, number 244, the PBSE podcast explores the complex dynamics of relationships affected by addiction and betrayal,...
mbkastleman
Sep 2, 202412 min read
My Porn Addicted Partner has ADHD. He Insists I MUST Manage His Recovery for Him to Succeed. Is This Right?
This episode of the PBSE podcast explores the challenges faced by couples dealing with both ADHD and pornography addiction, particularly...
mbkastleman
Aug 26, 202413 min read
“Men will Just be Men—Live with it?” REALLY?!
In this episode of the PBSE podcast, we tackle the harmful myth that "men will be men" and the devastating impact it can have on...
mbkastleman
Aug 19, 202421 min read
How Can I Support my Partner (who I Betrayed) so She Can Enjoy Life Again?
In this powerful and emotional episode, we delve into the raw and complex world of betrayal trauma, featuring a heart-wrenching...
mbkastleman
Aug 12, 202410 min read
What are the differences and similarities between male and female betrayal-traumatized partners?
In Episode 240, Mark and Steve address an important issue submitted by a male betrayed partner. Here's his submission— How do male...
mbkastleman
Aug 6, 20241 min read
A Close Friend Matches My Addict Husband’s Past “Porn/Fantasy” Woman. I’m Triggered Whenever I’m Around Her! What Can I Do?!
This episode, # 239, is in response to a very common and very painful, frustrating and limiting situation submitted by the betrayerd...
mbkastleman
Jul 30, 20243 min read
For an Addict Seeking to Overcome “Public Scanning,” is the “3-Second Rule” Harmful or Helpful?
Episode 238 comes in response to a request from a long-time PBSE listener. Here's her submission— Can you talk about the "3 second rule"...
mbkastleman
Jul 23, 20242 min read
My Addict Partner was Doing Well in Recovery. Then the Lies Started Again. I’m Shattered! How do I Come Back from This?!
In this Episode 237, Mark and Steve get passionate in responding to the heart-felt submission by a PBSE listener. Here's what she shared—...
mbkastleman
Jul 16, 20244 min read
Why is Knowledge of Horrific Abuse in the Porn Industry NOT Enough to Make Men Quit Their Porn Habit?
In this episode, # 236, the betrayed partner of a porn addict writes a very raw and vulnerable message to PBSE with some deeply poignant,...
mbkastleman
Jul 9, 20243 min read
I’ve Disclosed my Sexual Addiction history to my partner—now what? How do I best support her going forward?
In Episode 235, a PBSE listener writes in to ask Mark & Steve for guidance on how to best support his partner going forward. The couple...
mbkastleman
Jul 2, 20242 min read
HOW Does an Addict Get to Real, Lasting SEXUAL & EMOTIONAL Sobriety & Recovery?
Episode 234 comes in response to TWO situations/questions sent to PBSE by porn/sex addicts in recovery. Here’s a brief overview of each—...
mbkastleman
Jun 25, 20242 min read
What’s the Point in Staying with a Porn/Sex Addict? What’s in it for the Betrayed Partner?
In Episode 233, Mark & Steve respond to a very heart-felt submission from a betrayed partner, who asks some very hard questions about her...
mbkastleman
Jun 18, 20242 min read
The PBSE/Dare to Connect Approach vs 12-Step Support Groups
In PBSE Episode 232, Mark & Steve respond to a listener's experience and questions with regard to the approach to Betrayal Trauma healing...
mbkastleman
Jun 11, 20242 min read
Because He’s a Sex Addict—even in Real Recovery—I will still Never Be Enough For Him! How do I Cope with That?!
Episode 231 comes in response to a very raw and real submission by a PBSE listener who is the partner of a sex addict. Here's what she...
mbkastleman
Jun 4, 20242 min read
What Does “Real Restitution” for Serious Betrayal in a Relationship Look Like?
In Episode 230, the betrayed parter of a porn/sex addict submitted her situation and some questions to PBSE surrounding the CRITICAL...
mbkastleman
May 28, 20242 min read
Do I Have to Accept that my Addict Partner, even in Successful Recovery, could Betray Me Again?!
In Episode 229, Mark & Steve answer some very TOUGH questions asked by a partner seeking to heal from the betrayal trauma caused by her...
mbkastleman
May 21, 20242 min read
As a Partner, I’m Falling and Drowning—HOW DO I STOP! How do I TAKE BACK MY POWER?!
In Episode 228, Mark & Steve get SUPER passionate talking to the partners of porn/sex addicts! Over the past several weeks, PBSE has...
mbkastleman
May 14, 20241 min read
I Need My Sex Addict Partner be “all-in” with Recovery, and to Stop Throwing Me Under the Bus with Family & Friends!
In Episode 227, Mark & Steve respond to an amazing submission from a PBSE listener who is facing an incredibly hard, overwhelming and...
mbkastleman
May 7, 20243 min read
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