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As a Partner in Betrayal Trauma, I Feel Resentment Toward my Addict Partner. How do I Manage this?!
In episode 169, Mark and Steve address a very raw and real scenario and question from the partner of a porn/sex addict. As a partner...
mbkastleman
Apr 4, 20232 min read
How a lifetime of “Communication Trauma” can prevent “Healthy Connection” in the Here and Now.
We have all suffered from "communication trauma" in our life experiences! This can too easily get in the way and/or sabotage healthy...
mbkastleman
Mar 28, 20232 min read
The “Fallacy of Fairness”—Why I Cannot Stand Up For Myself with my Partner.
In this episode, Mark & Steve address a PBSE listener's question about WHY she has trouble standing her ground, having a voice, speaking...
mbkastleman
Mar 21, 20231 min read
What Does a Formal, Full “Disclosure” Look Like?
In this episode, Mark and Steve review what is an often mismanaged or overlooked “critical” part of porn/sex addiction recovery and...
mbkastleman
Mar 14, 20231 min read
Having Trouble with “Couples Check-ins”? Give this a Shot.
What is a "Couples Check-in" and WHY is it so ESSENTIAL to your relationship success? What are the BARRIERS to the Couples Check-in? How...
mbkastleman
Mar 8, 20231 min read
Regarding boundaries & consequences in recovery & healing, what is “my side of the street" vs "his"?
In this episode, Mark and Steve address what can often be a confusing topic for couples—when it comes to recovery, healing, boundaries...
mbkastleman
Feb 28, 20232 min read
Is all this “Recovery & Healing Crap” really Worth it? Hope for Couples.
Recovery from Porn/Sex Addiction and healing from Betrayal Trauma are HUGE commitments, take a long time and are HARD work. It can be...
mbkastleman
Feb 21, 20231 min read
Stop Focusing on your "Addiction Symptoms” and Get to your Core Issues!
Too often, those struggling with porn/sex addiction focus primarily on their outward addiction behaviors--the "symptoms" of addiction....
mbkastleman
Feb 14, 20231 min read
Is there any “Good” to be Learned from Sex Addiction Behaviors and Betrayal Trauma?
In this episode, Mark & Steve respond to a painful situation sent in by a PBSE listener. Her spouse was caught in an affair, which...
mbkastleman
Feb 7, 20232 min read
My Partner Slips with Porn & I go Online to See What He saw! How do I Stop this Painful Habit?
In this episode, Mark & Steve address a very common "painful" behavior that the partners of porn addicts can often engage in. A PBSE...
mbkastleman
Jan 31, 20232 min read
If I Don’t Get Angry when my Partner Slips/Relapses, He's Complacent! How Do I Find a balance?
A PBSE listener describes a situation that many partners of addicts face. Here's how she describes it. See if you can relate— My partner...
mbkastleman
Jan 24, 20232 min read
What if I Marry an Addict in Recovery and Down the Road He Stops Choosing Recovery?
This episode is in response to a situation shared with us by a PBSE listener. She is currently engaged to a guy in his mind twenties who...
mbkastleman
Jan 17, 20232 min read
How do I Forgive Myself after Betraying my Wife for 18 Years?!
Here's a raw, heart-felt submission from a PBSE listener— Hello Mark and Steve, I am a recovering porn addict and the grateful husband of...
mbkastleman
Jan 10, 20232 min read
After Addiction & Betrayal History, We Live Like “Married Singles.” How Can We Get the "Spark" back?
In th is episode, Mark and Steve address a "couple's issue" that is unfortunately all-too-common: In the wake of addiction and betrayal...
mbkastleman
Jan 3, 20232 min read
Is 2023 already “Ruined” Due to His Destructive Sexual Behaviors over all the other years?!
As we look at moving into a new year, many addicts in recovery and spouses healing from betrayal trauma, wonder if their year and...
mbkastleman
Dec 27, 20221 min read
Be the proactive “Architect” of your Holidays and 2023—instead of the old “Reactive Firefighter."
I f we're not mindful and proactive, addiction and betrayal trauma can turn our Holidays into constant "fires" that we run around putting...
mbkastleman
Dec 20, 20221 min read
Does it Take a “Catastrophe” to Break Out of Addiction? And, Should I Disclose to My Partner?
We recently received a VERY raw, vulnerable and transparent communication from one of our PBSE listeners who is struggling with porn...
mbkastleman
Dec 13, 20222 min read
How to Raise Sexually Healthy Kids and Help Those Already Struggling
Mark & Steve rarely address issues with kids and teens on PBSE podcast. However, two PBSE listeners submitted questions in this area. One...
mbkastleman
Dec 6, 20221 min read
Now that I know about my addict partner’s past sexual behaviors, I don’t want to have sex with him!
This PBSE episode comes from a very bold, but authentic situation and question from one of our listeners— I am a betrayed spouse and...
mbkastleman
Nov 29, 20221 min read
What Can You Do When Your Partner Will Not Acknowledge They Have a Porn Problem?
In episode 150, Mark & Steve tackle a situation submitted by a PBSE listener— Her partner of 3 years came forward and admitted to her...
mbkastleman
Nov 22, 20221 min read
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