Are Your “Resentments” Holding You Back?
Resentment is a POWERFUL emotion! And while it most certainly can be very legitimate based on actual events, history, betrayal, etc., it...
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Mark & Steve
Feb 1, 20221 min read
As a Spouse, You Have “4 Primary Rights” with Regard to His Disclosure!
One of THE most important milestones in real recovery is when a porn/sex addict prepares a completely transparent and authentic...
Mark & Steve
Jan 25, 20221 min read
How Can I Ever Dare to Trust Him Again?
When there has been Betrayal Trauma, it can seem impossible to ever dare to fully trust again. A PBSE listener describes this struggle as...
Mark & Steve
Jan 18, 20221 min read
All the ways we convince ourselves we are “entitled” to act out in our addictions.
There are MANY reasons the ego-addict part of the brain convinces us that we are entitled to escape into our addiction outlets. These can...
Mark & Steve
Jan 11, 20221 min read
How do we move out of a “Trauma Response” into “Relationships Authenticity”? (Part Two)
Once you recognize that you and/or your partner are caught in a "Trauma Response," HOW can you intentionally move into a place of...
Mark & Steve
Jan 4, 20221 min read
How do I Recognize when I or my Partner are Caught in a "Trauma Response"? (Part One)
There are MANY "trauma triggers" that can create great conflict, pain and difficulty between partners. If you truly desire to work on...
Mark & Steve
Dec 28, 20211 min read
New Year’s Resolutions Can Make Addiction Worse! Try this Instead.
In this episode, Mark & Steve talk raw and real about why the traditional "New Year's Resolution" failed for them SO many times—and often...
Mark & Steve
Dec 21, 20211 min read
How to Balance Christmas (and other holidays) with the Trauma of Recovery & Healing
In what can sometimes be the "hellish" experience of addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing, can we still find wonder, enjoyment...
Mark & Steve
Dec 14, 20211 min read
When Stress Hits—STAND UP for Your Personal & Couple-ship "Bill of Rights"!
Everyone faces different kinds of STRESS in everyday life. But, when we're in addiction recovery or healing from betrayal trauma, that...
Mark & Steve
Dec 7, 20211 min read
This is Our 100th Episode! In the Pain of Addiction & Betrayal Trauma—There is GREAT HOPE!
Although we can't quite believe it, this is PBSE's 100th Episode!!! Thank you to all our listeners who made this possible! It would...
Mark & Steve
Nov 30, 20211 min read
My Spouse is in Recovery but will NOT have Sex with Me! What Can I Do?
There are plenty of situations where an addict spouse wants to have sex all the time. There are situations where the spouse suffering...
Mark & Steve
Nov 23, 20211 min read
How Do We Find Connection When There’s Been “Mutual Betrayal”?
A PBSE listener recently sent in a situation and question— He has been in recovery and "clean" for a year. At one point during that year...
Mark & Steve
Nov 16, 20212 min read
What Should Come First—Him Ending His Affair, or Us Starting Couples Counseling?
We know—the title of this episode is INSANE!!! But it comes from an actual question sent in by a PBSE listener— My partner and I are...
Mark & Steve
Nov 9, 20212 min read
How Can I “Adequately” Explain to My Spouse WHY I Looked at Porn?
Here's a question from a PBSE listener— I am a recovering sex and porn addict working on my recovery and trying to reconcile with my...
Mark & Steve
Nov 2, 20212 min read
My Husband Watches Female Professional Wrestling. Is That a Problem?
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a listener who asks a very important question about one of her spouse's favorite...
Mark & Steve
Oct 26, 20211 min read
As an Addict, How Can You Move Past Your Defensiveness to Truly Connect With Your Spouse?
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's sincere inquiry about HOW to move through his defensiveness in response to...
Mark & Steve
Oct 19, 20212 min read
Has Your Addict Partner Truly "Forgotten" His Past Discretions OR is He "Gaslighting" You?
In this episode, Mark and Steve take on a PBSE listener's question about her husband's "claim of not being able to remember the details...
Mark & Steve
Oct 12, 20211 min read
How Do I Overcome the Shame of My Past "Toxic Sex/Me-Centered" Behaviors?
In this episode Mark and Steve respond to a very heart-felt question by a PBSE listener— My wife and I recently listened to your episode...
Mark & Steve
Oct 5, 20212 min read
Is My Partner Lying About His Porn Use? How Can I Know?
How do you know if your partner is telling you the truth about his porn use and other sexual behaviors? A PBSE listener recently...
Mark & Steve
Sep 28, 20211 min read
How Can I Forgive a Man Who Has Spent Nearly Our Entire Marriage Lying?!
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a very heart-felt message and question from a PBSE listener: a spouse struggling to forgive...
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