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Mark & Steve
Jun 21, 20221 min read
The “Abuse Cycle” Par Two—The Impact of Abuse on Betrayal Trauma and Healing
In Episode 127, Mark and Steve addressed the "Abuse Cycle" and its effects on addicts in recovery. In this episode, they talk directly to...
Mark & Steve
Jun 14, 20221 min read
The “Abuse Cycle” Part One—The Impact of Abuse on Addiction
In this episode, Mark shares his own story of abuse as a child to illustrate how the "abuse cycle" is often directly related to addiction....
Mark & Steve
Jun 7, 20221 min read
My Addict Partner of 33 Years is Out of Control and I Don’t Know Where to Start!
This heart-felt description, question and request comes from a PBSE listener— I’m a wife of 33yrs in betrayal trauma after finding...
Mark & Steve
May 31, 20222 min read
How to Surrender Control of an Addict’s Behaviors while Maintaining Boundaries and Accountability.
It's very normal for a betrayed spouse to seek to be safe and avoid being "blindsided" by more betrayal, by trying to "control" the...
Mark & Steve
May 24, 20222 min read
“To Masturbate or Not to Masturbate,” that is the question!
Masturbation is an extremely controversial topic these days; one that elicits a lot of heated debate. This is especially true when an...
Mark & Steve
May 17, 20222 min read
It’s NOT an Addiction if I’m Only Using “Porn Substitutes”—Right???
There's a lot of heated debate out there about "what is pornographic" and "what is not." Too often in these arguments, the REAL ISSUES...
Mark & Steve
May 10, 20221 min read
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part Three
This is Part Three—the concluding episode on "How Mark and Steve moved from defensiveness to fighting for their marriages. In this...
Mark & Steve
May 3, 20221 min read
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part Two
In "Part Two," Mark and Steve address a VERY difficult situation for recovery addicts and their spouses—HOW to navigate people and places...
Mark & Steve
Apr 26, 20221 min read
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part One
One of the greatest challenges we face as sex/porn addicts in recovery is becoming "defensive" when our partners offer feedback, speak...
Mark & Steve
Apr 19, 20222 min read
How Long Should I Be “Sober” Before I Start Dating or Having Sex Again?
This PBSE episode is directed at single listeners and those already in a relationship. A PBSE listener who is single sent in the...
Mark & Steve
Apr 12, 20222 min read
Should I Just Be “OK” with my Partner’s Lusting?
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's question about her struggles with her partner lusting after a co-worker— ...
Mark & Steve
Apr 5, 20221 min read
Are you Sick & Tired of Relapsing? Then it’s time to “Be Stubborn”and “Get An Attitude”!!!
Are you trying to break free from porn viewing and/or other unwanted sexual behaviors, but you just keep falling back into it?! In this...
Mark & Steve
Mar 29, 20222 min read
How can I KNOW when my Partner has finally Stopped Lying and is Serious About His Recovery?
In this episode, Mark and Steve answer a spouse's questions about her addict husband and how she will KNOW that he is serious about...
Mark & Steve
Mar 22, 20222 min read
I Have Discovered My Husband's Relapses More Than a Dozen Times. What Now?
In this episode, Mark and Steve address a major challenge faced by many betrayed spouses—they keep uncovering and discovering their...
Mark & Steve
Mar 15, 20222 min read
When is it OK for my Addict Partner to “Back Off” from His Recovery?
How long should a spouse expect her addict partner to keep up his recovery? Doesn't there come a time when he can "back off" to some...
Mark & Steve
Mar 8, 20221 min read
What if my Betrayed Spouse Won’t Keep Up?
In this episode, Mark and Steve openly and passionately address a PBS listener's situation and questions. Here's what he asked— I have...
Mark & Steve
Mar 1, 20222 min read
As Addicts, We Can Throw Up HUGE Barriers to Recovery and Mending Our Most Important Relationships!
In this episode, Mark and Steve address a situation and series of questions from a PBSE listener who is the partner of a porn/sex addict...
Mark & Steve
Feb 22, 20221 min read
TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part Two: What to do if you are the Spouse.
In episode 110, Mark and Steve addressed the responsibility that a recovering porn/sex addict has with regard to TV, movies and...
Mark & Steve
Feb 15, 20222 min read
TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part One: What to do if you are the addict.
Something that can be a BIG issue for couples—when one is a porn/sex addict in recovery and the other is a betrayed spouse trying to...
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