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After Lying & Gaslighting, My Partner Won’t Believe Me! How Do I Show True Empathy & Rebuild Trust?
In Episode 190, Mark and Steve take on some excellent questions asked by a PBSE listener. He is in good, solid, active recovery from...
mbkastleman
Aug 22, 20232 min read
Boundaries, Trauma and “Long-Distance-Sex”–Where do We Go From Here?
In Episode 189, Mark and Steve answer three critical questions sent in by a PBSE listener who is trying to balance her own healing from...
mbkastleman
Aug 15, 20232 min read
Will Confronting my Addict’s "Acting-Out Partners" Help Me Heal?
Episode 188 addresses a PBSE Listener's painful situation and heart-felt, crucial questions: "Hi Mark and Steve, Firstly I want to thank...
mbkastleman
Aug 8, 20232 min read
What Place Does “Edging” Have or Not Have in Healthy Recovery and Healing a Relationship?
In Episode 187, Mark & Steve take on a topic and question from a PBSE listener that hasn't been specifically addressed on the podcast...
mbkastleman
Aug 1, 20231 min read
My Partner’s Definition of “What is Porn” is Different from Mine—We are at an Impasse—Now What?!
In episode 186, Mark & Steve address a very difficult and sensitive topic sent in to PBSE by the partner of an addict in recovery— "My...
mbkastleman
Jul 25, 20232 min read
My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s “Empathy Button” is Broken! What Can I Do?
The title for Episode 185 may sound a bit strange—"My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s 'Empathy Button' is Broken! What Can I Do?" Actually, the...
mbkastleman
Jul 18, 20232 min read
How can we Connect When My Partner Acts Out and Then Goes to Shame—Silent, Stoic and Self-Absorbed?!
I In Episode 184, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's situation and question. This is a VERY common situation that MANY partners...
mbkastleman
Jul 11, 20232 min read
“Clearing Away the Wreckage of Your Past"—Recovery Lessons from Steve’s Metal Detecting Trip
Almost 30 years ago, when PBSE co-founder Steve Moore was 13-years-old, his father was killed in a plane crash. This traumatic event...
mbkastleman
Jul 4, 20231 min read
I Want My Addict Partner to SUFFER; to Feel TERRIBLE like I do! How Can I Stop these Feelings?!
In episode 182, Mark and Steve respond to a very authentic, vulnerable and VERY direct question from a PBSE listener— "Can you address...
mbkastleman
Jun 27, 20231 min read
Evolve from Treating the “Symptoms of Addiction” to a Real & Lasting “Change of Heart & Mind."
In episode 180, Mark and Steve address an insightful inquiry from a porn/sex addict seeking a real and lasting change of heart and mind...
mbkastleman
Jun 20, 20232 min read
Should I Pay Off My New Spouse's "Porn Debt" So We Can Have a Solid Financial Start?
We KNOW this episode title sounds crazy! But, many partners of porn/sex addicts face some hard decisions about where to "draw boundaries"...
mbkastleman
Jun 13, 20231 min read
Is There a “Statute of Limitations” on Feelings, Betrayal Trauma and Disclosure?
In Episode 178, Mark and Steve address an all-too-common situation and question faced and asked by porn/sex addicts in recovery and their...
mbkastleman
Jun 6, 20231 min read
How do I Stop Comparing Myself to Porn and His Sexual Fantasies?
In Episode 177, Mark and Steve address a very heart-felt question sent in by a PBSE listener— "My partner recently came clean to me about...
mbkastleman
May 30, 20231 min read
If “Sex is Optional,” How can a Couple Possibly Stay Connected?!
In this episode Mark and Steve address a super common question—if "sex is optional" in a relationship, then how can a couple possibly...
mbkastleman
May 23, 20232 min read
How Can We Avoid the Traps and Pitfalls of Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing?
Episode 175 finds Steve and his wife on vacation on the island of Hilo in Hawaii. Hilo is the site of an actual "active" volcano. While...
mbkastleman
May 16, 20231 min read
What Keeps us Stuck in Addiction and What Does “Real” Recovery Look Like?
The partners of sex/porn addicts can find it difficult or near impossible to discern whether or not their partner is still "stuck in...
mbkastleman
May 9, 20232 min read
What Happens When we “Weaponize” What Could be “Healthy Boundaries”?
Healthy Boundaries are CRITICAL to our individual happiness and authenticity—AND—to our connection as a couple. But when we're not...
mbkastleman
May 2, 20232 min read
“Normal Human Attraction” vs. “Toxic/Betraying Lust”?
In Episode 172, Mark and Steve tackle a topic that is extremely difficult, triggering and traumatizing for the partners of porn/sex...
mbkastleman
Apr 25, 20232 min read
What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in...
mbkastleman
Apr 18, 20232 min read
Is There a Place for Sexual Boundaries in Your Coupleship?
Once an addict starts into recovery and his partner begins her journey of healing betrayal trauma, a couple should immediately look at...
mbkastleman
Apr 11, 20231 min read
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